Cockroach story!
Posted in he he
This is a cat model that I sculpted, shaded and rendered in MAYA for an assignment almost a year back. :)
goes down
when u fly too high
u fall too deep
u foresee the worse
yet u never know
till u hit the ground
the pain that shoots
the blood that pours
u scream, u shout!!
yet nothing helps
u r bruised
and u bleed
madness breeds
and nothing u do
can help u fall asleep
http://www.chowrangi.com/champions-trophy-mantra-indian-cricketers-told-to-have-sex-or-go-solo.html
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Before I got married myself, there was a term which was thrown around a lot by married people in my life, called, “Marriage shock”. The legend goes, no matter what you do, no matter how much you try and make sure that the spouse you are choosing is perfect, the living arrangements are perfect, the family is perfect.. one can never escape the “Marriage Shock”. It creeps up on you when you least except it and one exclaims, “I want my mommy and daddy now and that’s it!!!”.
Digging deeper I found out that the reasons for women mostly might be:
I feel like a prisoner!
I hate his mom!
I hate my nands!
Though women care about the man problems more:
He is very filthy!
I hate his friends!
He still talks to his old girl friends!
He has too many expectations!
He doesn’t let me meet my friend or talk to my friends!
I have no life of my own!
More serious ones:
He is a lunatic!
He is ultra possessive!
He beats me up!
His anger is outta control!
However, the topper is this specially for love marriages:
“He is not the same as he was before marriage!!”
WHAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!! Hold on!! FULL STOP HERE!!! REWIND….. WHAT DID YOU SAY AGAIN!!!“He is NOT the SAME as he was BEFORE MARRIAGE!!!!!”
EEEEEEEEEYYYYYYYYYYAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!! Ok… this is what I was banking on when I said yes for marriage to my fiancĂ©. That it seems I can live with this man, based on how he is now. If he is going to change, I see no reason to go through this whole big ceremony, leading me to agonizing pain! To that, they wave their hands in the air and laughingly say… “ O its gonna be fine, don’t be scared!”
The interesting part is, they never tell you the exact problems that they are facing before one is married. They are so much trying to portray that their hubby is perfect, they never tell you the exact problems. However, once you are, then they open up, even before you are through the first week of your marriage.
So here I was about to get married and my biggest fear was, could this happen to me too?.. “He is not the same as he was before marriage!!” I was shit scared outta my wits. Staring at my man thinking, can he change? Can he REALLY CHANGE enough to make me MISERABLE!?
So, one month into my marriage, here is my analysis, as to what happens to the husbands of these women. After men get married, especially those men who get married to the women of their choice, they feel the need to prove it to their families that they made the right choice. That it’s in perfect conformity with their family’s. Now that they feel the need to do that, they aspire to be the kind of husbands that they have seen all their lives, who conform to norms, the kind of norms that they have seen all their lives. They want to portray and feel as the man of the house. They force their wives into traditional roles of wives that they have seen their mothers and family women in. While they chose to marry progressive women but they force them into traditional roles. To top it off, without showing any mercy or understanding.
That lack of understanding and mercy is what changes them from husbands to a simple conformist to norms. The relation of kindness, tenderness and understanding is replaced by simple role playing. Marriage is a new and different experience for both men and women, and they need to help each other slowly get into the new roles, along with helping each other out through the fulfillment of those roles and completion of their new found responsibilities.
This trend is changing a lot nowadays, and the couples do seem more like very good friends than traditional husband and wives. Men have grown mentally to accept their spouses as a unique person rather than mere wives. They have grown out from conformist to norms to being loving, caring and understanding husbands.
So for those husbands, who have turned into conformist to norms and are just ultra possessive, commanding, pushing and demanding; need to realize they are making their wives unhappy and love and respect is being lost. They need to trust and understand their wives and help them evolve, like how their wives try to help them out. Or otherwise, sooner or later, their marriage would turn into just two people who are living together rather than that of a husband and a wife.
So, one month into the marriage, and its going PRETTY fine, I’d say, “He is not the same as he was before marriage but even BETTER ;)!!”
Posted in My Ranting
i guess that's life
you love
you learn
and if you DON'T learn
you love again
Posted in Poetry, Things I like
Ibn Batuta and Maldives
"Conversion to Islam
Ref:
http://www.visitmaldives.com/Maldives/history.php
Posted in Things I like
http://www.dawn.com/wps/wcm/connect/dawn-content-library/dawn/in-paper-magazine/the-review/meeting-the-odds
This is indeed a very real issue in Pakistan. Due to the close mindedness of the marriage suitors and their families, a lot of needy working women are subjected to lonely life, sacrificing their marriage proposals and their youth in order to support their families. I wish that the mindset of the men and their families would change and they would realize that working women does not always portray liberation but some times, they portray need.
Posted in Speak Out
Horse
However the following was not discovered like this but forwarded to me by a friend named Obaid. Here is the summary of what the cool link has..
Some smart ass Russian photographer from 100 years back took pics in red blue green separately hundred years ago. Recently they were discovered and combined to give us amazing colored images of Russia from 100 years ago. These are beautiful.
ENJOY!
http://www.newsweek.com/id/214585
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However, on the flip side, Disney's extreme sissy approach lately scares me that it will also turn our beloved Marvel heros into sissys as well. Here is a freaky preview: brrrrr........ scary
http://kotaku.com/5349732/the-disney-marvel-team+ups-wed-like-to-see
Posted in My Ranting